I took a hard time accepting that I can't finish my degree in architecture. Sometimes the struggle comes in small packages, creating heart winces every time I see pictures, diagrams or anything that display intricate works of architectural beauty. It doesn't break me down though, but I should admit that episode comes and goes. However so, the degree of pain of losing something can always be eased up through one single, very effective way of coping called 'letting go'. Letting go is never easy. Mine might be minor considering I still have a chance to pursue a degree only that it is of different field of knowledge that is still within my scope of interest. But think about asking parents who lost their only child. Or a wife who lost her husband of 75 years of marriage. Loss is, more often than not (well, the object you lose needs to be something of great value to you, of course), not easy to handle.
But if we do need to let go, what other paradigms we need to embrace other than highlighting and embalming things we lost into a more solid image in our minds? We lost it and we don't want to let it slip away, didn't we? Not necessarily, though. Letting go doesn't mean erasing the good memories or telling the world that that particular thing you treasure, be it a lifetime opportunity, a childhood, a relationship, friends, spouse, or anything, never existed in the first place. It is not about forgetting it. Letting go means you accept things that weren't meant to be. In many points in life, we stumble upon facts that things do not go as we wish, even further from what we expected the least. We lose, we grieve, but we need to move on.However, it is absolutely normal to experience an occasional reminder that agonize us for a short while. Our brain circuit and our humanity work perfectly when it comes to remembering things we love the most. The point is, not to hold it too tight till we can't step further to the future.
Letting go is not a sign of failure. On the contrary, letting go is a sign that you are ready to move on and receive better things in life.
Your post is very nice and inspiring, Yossy!
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By the way, commenting your article here..
I knew letting go isn't easy, but I have a tip which always works well for me. Actually that's stated on your "About Me" part. It's called gratitude. :)
Every time I feel bad, whether it's sad, upset, or anything, the only way to turned it vice-versa is by thinking anything good or having gratitude time for whatever I have already. Just have to remember to do this, because I'm also a forgetful person who knew the tip already, but often forget using it when I need to do so..
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PS : Ga jelas bangett komen gw yaa jeeng??
hahahahaha.. :p